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Wednesday, October 26, 2016



Well said and well done Howard. Be fortunate that you had such a nice father and upbringing as you did. A lot of us didn't and wish we had. My dad passed away when I was 22 and I never really knew him that much, nor him me. We never spoke much, never did much together and I regret having a dad that could shape me like yours did to you. I have been looking, I suppose, unconsciously for a father figure ever since he passed....always wanted to bond with a role model.

Life is sadness and pain but life is also happiness and joy. It all passes away eventually and one can sometimes get caught up too much in the moment and not realize the big picture out there. Your song was very appropriate.

When my wife's dad passed away at the age of 92 almost 10 years ago, I remember putting together a playlist of 4 songs that he liked a lot and meant something to him. They were: "Danny Boy", "You'll never walk alone" (from Carousel) "Abide with me" and "I only have eyes for you". The voices were Bing Crosby, Perry Como, Mario Lanza and Frank Sinatra....all voices from his era and ones that gave wonderful renditions of the pieces. I remember during the outdoor service that day that the rain and the wind was horrible but that most of the moisture on my face was from tears streaming down my face. I was closer in some ways to my wife's family than to my own.

Be gentle on yourself, Howard. As others have said before, you did your father proud. You couldn't have made him happier at the end.

May my demise be as peaceful as your father's was. I, too, do not wish a funeral service...only a serene location with Faure's Requiem playing in the background.

Take care, and may your father find eternal bliss.


I was fortunate that neither of my parents wanted a funeral, and both Bill and I feel the same way. Still, I'm sure you're glad you could give your dad what he wanted. Getting home and looking forward to the rest of your lives will feel wonderful for you both.

These are great photos Howard. They were both wonderful people and we are happy to have met them. I too don't want the usual trappings at the end and hope that I will go quickly like your dad and without any loss of dignity. You are wise to want the best for him which is not to be miserable rather than to think of your own loss which is not insignificant. David has lost both of his parents and he said it is hard to be an orphan at any age. We are thinking of your both.

Howard, so very sorry for the loss of your father. Only met him a couple of times, but he was very easy to become acquainted with and quick to engage in friendly conversation. You and Linda went above and beyond on the care of both your parents and made their later years much more enjoyable and relaxing. Your parents are now smiling down on both you and Linda.

Shedding tears because I know what you are going through.

So sorry for your loss, Howard and Linda.

Understand your sentiments completely. Well said.

It's obvious from your writings that your Dad gave you a good life, and that he experienced a life well lived.

Wishing you and Linda all the best as you move forward.

Rest in peace, Sterling.

Jim and Linda

Good Bless you two.

You were lucky to have such wonderful parents. They were both wonderful people. While we will always miss them I will remember them with a smile and maybe a hint of a tear. Love to you and Linda

Jenny Johnson Manuel

Very well said, Enjoy your remaining time in Maine.

Howard you look the same in your family portrait, OK maybe a bit more hair. Take Care and Safe travels.

You can't very well be totally sad when a parent lives into their nineties still at home nearly to the end, and had a good life. Your comment about thinking with both a tear and a smile makes perfect sense as far as our reaction to our parents' dying was.

I think it's really nice that you followed his wishes even though it isn't something you would want for yourself. The pictures were great and I particularly like your Beatles mop haircut 😉. So glad for you that part is done. I am sure you will have many moments of sadness over the next months, but as you sad those memories will also brings smiles. Love you guys. Trace

So very sorry for your loss.

This was beautiful beyond words. Sending prayers of comfort to you and the family.

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